6 Reasons Why You Should Not Be Friends With Your Ex
You do not have to be friends with your ex. Look, I get it, I really do: After a break up, it is so, so tempting to try to be friends with the person you were dating. You might feel this way for a lot of reasons. Regardless of whether you were the dump-er or the dump-ee, the idea of suddenly going from seeing someone all the time to not seeing him or her at all is simply unimaginable. Or maybe you were friends before you dated, so you feel like you should be able to go back to that. Or you think that,if you could just hang out once in a while, the break-up wouldn’t feel quite soterrible. Or maybe your ex is going through a roughtime, so you feel like you should be supportive. But, regardless of your motivation, sometimes being friends with an ex simply isn’t possible, and trying to force that relationship to happen can make the break up worse, creating more bitternessand anger and keeping you from truly moving on.
So here are 6 reasons why you should not be friends with your ex
1. AbusiveOf all the many reasons not to stay friends with anex, Abusive has to come first, if your ex is either physically or emotionally abusive is good enough reason to stay away from sure person. Don’t hope that they would, even if they do, would you really want to take the risk?
2. Its tortureYour ex might not be the Abusive type but really if you guys stay as friends and hanging out, then s/he does something funny that made you smile, you suddenly want to kiss him/her, but cant. So tell me why put yourself through sure torture whenyou can just simply move on with your life.
3. Moving OnMoving on after a break up is somewhat difficult especially when youve invest alot in such relationship. So ordinarily the hope of you ex coming back makes you want to hold on to them in whatever form. However, moving on after a bad break up requires you not to be friends with your#ex so that you chase off potential dates. Truly severing contact is the kindest thing to do here.
4. Respect for your new partnerNobody should dictate who you are friends with. Ifyou're genuinely friends with your ex then it's fair enough to stay in contact, even if you have a new partner. But their feelings should always be respected. If a new partner is uncomfortable with you maintaining contact, it may be the best thing to stop.
5. You can’t undo the past.There are some memories you must have obviously shared with your ex that would probably hurt you when you are with him/her, realizing that you might not get to share such memories again.If you’ve seen each other Unclad, the desire to want to cosy up to your ex would arise especially of you the receiving partner.There are too many nicknames, inside jokes and memories to start fresh, so you’re likely to fall into old dating patterns even when not romantically involved.
It can be confusing for one or both of you. Note: Most platonic pals of opposite genders have not seen each other Unclad.
6. Friends with benefitsIf two adults want this kind of arrangement, then that's up to them. However, it can be problematicalwith ex-partners. One may well agree to this situation in the hope that the other will realise theyshould be together, when the chances are that they're just looking for easy sex.
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